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3 Ways to Relax on the Money Rollercoaster Ride

3 Ways to Relax (and Enjoy!) the Money Rollercoaster Ride as a Conscious Entrepreneur

There’s a saying that “how you do money is how you do everything.”

And what stops most women from getting their gifts out into the world isn’t their passion, drive or commitment. It’s their relationship with money.

Why is that?

Because money is at the heart of every decision you make — in your life, your business or your career.

However, for most women, money is a source of fear, confusion and self-sabotage.

And it can often feel like one big fat rollercoaster ride!

But money doesn’t have to be a struggle.

In fact, money can be your most powerful ally, especially when you learn to take practical, mindful actions with money everyday while staying relaxed and present with your experience.

Here are three of my top recommendations to help you “power up” your relationship with money:

1) Set a Bold Money Goal every 60 days and be clear why this amount of money is important to you.

Are you someone who only has a vague notion of your money goal for the year and the next 60 days? Or is it a figure you keep only in your head?

Having a clear dollar figure as your goal that you write down on paper and look at everyday is my top recommendation for relaxing and enjoying the money rollercoaster ride.

Why is this important? Two main reasons: it activates your brain into asking, “So if this is my goal, what steps can I take today to reach it? Who can I call and email?”

It also sends a clear message to the Universe, which then begins to conspire on your behalf to bring you what you clearly ask for.

Then, write down your “why.” Why is this amount of money important to you? What will you do with it?

When you bridge your money goal (your “what”) with the meaning behind it (your “why”), that’s where the magic can happen.

2) Track your income every single day to the penny.

Money loves attention! I’ve personally experienced that when I pay attention to where my money goes, money flows and GROWS.

Start by tracking your income every single day to the penny. I give all my clients “money tracking sheets” to put on their desks or post in a visible place.

Money tracking is an amazing practice that keeps you mindful of your money—and empowered to take the necessary action steps to increase what’s coming in and be conscious of what’s going out.

For many women, it can become all too easy to ignore your finances, or to go to the other extreme and be obsessive-compulsive about your numbers.

Tip: Set a recurring appointment time on your calendar at the end of your workday to track ALL sources of income that have come in that day.

This time is also the perfect opportunity to express appreciation for the money that comes in, and the value and meaning that expression has for you!

3) Start to notice your thoughts about money — and how you feel when you think those thoughts.

One of my favorite sentences in The Science of Getting Rich, written by Wallace Wattles in 1910, is this:

“The thoughts you think about money and how you feel when you think those thoughts directly relate to the flow of money in your life.”

So when you have automatic or reactive thoughts like “I can’t afford it” or “it’s too expensive” or you notice that tight feeling in your belly when you really want to buy something that seems out of your price range, become aware of that sensation in your body and the thoughts you are having.

Stop. Pause. Take a deep breath, and notice what’s there. Get curious.

When you can begin to notice what you’re noticing, that’s the first step in shifting from a reactive pattern around money to consciously responding to the “money moment” at hand.

This is good time to journal what you’re noticing and talk to a trusted friend, coach or mentor, as a way to begin reclaiming your power from the money trigger.

You’ll find that as you “gather yourself” and take back your power, you’re in a much better place to mindfully take the next step around money and begin to claim your financial freedom — in your business and life!

 

From Hiding to Shining: 3 Steps to Create the Business and Life of Your Dreams – On Your Own Terms

From Hiding to Shining: 3 Steps to Create the Business and Life of Your Dreams – On Your Own Terms

Have you experienced the feeling of being stuck—like you keep repeating the same pattern over and over—as you long to have the fulfillment you truly want in your business and life?

Yes?

I believe it happens to all of us! You get caught up in old stories about what you can or can’t have. You put your dreams on hold or push them aside.

Or, worse, you give up on them completely.

Because, well…

There are bills to pay and mouths to feed. You have to be smart and sensible about your future, your retirement, your sanity.

Or you think you’re not smart enough, rich enough, young enough, old enough, educated enough, loved enough or fill-in-the-blank enough to really go for what your heart is truly longing for.

So you stay stuck, or you stay in hiding.

I know this pattern all too well.

When I was in my early 20s – yes, I’ll admit that was about 25 years ago! – I had a dream to be an entrepreneur.

I wanted to speak to and inspire audiences, lead workshops, facilitate groups and work with people 1-1 to help them transform their lives.

So I began taking steps in that direction. I created a Mastermind group. I attended workshops and trainings to develop my skills. I put together a personal growth presentation (called it Open the Door with Rapport!) that I delivered to a roomful of friends and acquaintances. I even had it professionally videotaped.

I was on fire. That was in 1993.

And then…

I let the dream go.

I didn’t think I had what it takes. I got caught up in comparing myself to others and “not enoughness.”

I got caught up in the need to make money, have a steady job and do what I knew how to do. I stayed in the comfort zone of the “known.”

Which was to go to work Monday through Friday from 9-5 and use my marketing and communications skills to help others be successful.

Now, 23 years later, the entrepreneurial dream is alive for me. I’m living it.

I’m regularly speaking and leading workshops. I now emcee a monthly women’s networking group. And I’m continuing to coach others to success in their businesses and lives, but I’m doing it on my own terms.

What made the difference? These 3 critical steps:

1) Trust your heart and start with the question: What would I LOVE?

A question I often ask my clients is “What would you LOVE?”

That’s the first question to ask yourself when faced with a big or small decision.

Not what’s the best deal, what’s going to make you the most money, or what’s the smart or sensible thing to do. Typically, those are questions that come from ego.

But when you start with your heart, that’s where you tune into your inner voice of wisdom, your Higher Self. Then, you can bring in the more analytical and practical questions, so that your ego is in service to your soul.

For example, I used the “what would I love” question as the springboard to starting my coaching business.

At the time, I was working a full-time job that I enjoyed. But, ultimately, I was feeling stressed out and unfulfilled.

I KNEW I was meant to have my own business.

And I knew it was my time now to step out from “hiding” and shine my brilliance in a bigger and bolder way!

When I got in touch with what-I-would-LOVE, I realized my heart was longing to have afternoons off to spend with my son, plus a longing for more personal time and the space to create my budding new business. I longed for breathing room.

So my first step toward my dream of becoming an entrepreneur was to cut back my hours at the full-time job.

Then, as I followed my heart and excitement, the “how” of leaving this job to start my coaching business – and ultimately, create a freedom lifestyle and financial success on my own terms – was revealed to me.

And 8 months later, I fulfilled my dream of being a full-time entrepreneur!

2) Leap before you’re ready.

Price Pritchett in his excellent book You-Squared urges us to “Make your move before you’re ready.”

He says to act first and then strategize while creating your dream business and life. When you do that, you’ll discover you can trust your instincts and that you know more than you know.

Writes Pritchett: “A quantum leap is a move that is yours for the taking. Right now. It represents a giant step you can make merely by deciding to and opening yourself up to the resources presently available to serve you.”

So when I decided to leave my full-time job to start my coaching business, I didn’t have all my duckies in a row. I didn’t know how it would all happen.

But I acted. I leapt.

I took the first step I knew to take and then strategized along the way. I followed the breadcrumbs and looked for signs that I was on the right track.

Was I scared when I took the leap and quit my full-time job?

You better believe it. But again, it didn’t happen overnight. It took 8 months from the time I decided to leave my job to when I actually left and started doing this business full-time.

3) Be willing to invest in yourself – and get support.

Let’s face it. We ALL need support in creating the biggest dreams in business and life.

But sometimes relying on just the support of your spouse, friends, co-workers, or family members doesn’t cut it.

There are those times when you absolutely need the support of a mentor, coach or consultant – especially if you’re starting or growing a business.

It’s essential to have someone who has traveled the path and can take you where you want to be, giving you the structure, support and accountability along the way.

This has been a critical step on my path. And ongoingly investing in my business and myself is essential to my success.

So I have a business mentor and coach, and I regularly receive training so that I can continually uplevel my skills as a professional coach and business owner.

Plus, I’m part of a weekly Mastermind group that holds me accountable.

Having a team of support around me helps me see my own blind spots and reveal unconscious beliefs that stop me.

My client Tom struggled for years on his own to integrate his 30-year career as a financial advisor with his longtime passion for teaching meditation and mindfulness.

Through our coaching together, he got crystal clear that his purpose is to bring forth BOTH aspects—the material and the spiritual—into his work.

As a result, Tom created the Mindful Money Institute, a nonprofit focused on helping money managers incorporate mindfulness and meditation to promote business growth and inner peace.

And, oh yes, our coaching also helped him get refocused on his business priorities, and he increased his revenue by 33%!

Bottom line: Take these 3 critical steps to create what YOU really want in your business and life. And please comment below!

These 3 daily actions can make or break your business (and your dreams)

These 3 daily actions can make or break your biz (and your dreams)

There’s a saying I love by W. Clement Stone: “Big doors swing on little hinges.”

When you apply this to your business, it’s the little, yet consistent actions and habits that swing open wide the doors of income and opportunity for you.

In Sanskrit, the word for “habit” is called samskara. (Thanks to my yoga teacher who shared this with me the other day.) When we cultivate a new positive habit or samskara, our lives truly do transform before our eyes.

So here are the 3 daily actions in the areas of money, marketing and mindset to grow your business, your bank account, and your impact on your clients and community.

These are my personal practices, so I wouldn’t highly recommend them if I haven’t already given them a test run and KNOW they work.

Focus on these three areas each and every workday, and I guarantee you will skyrocket your success:

1) Money: Track your numbers every single day to the penny.

Tracking the inflow and outflow of your money is an amazing practice that keeps you mindful of your money—and empowered to take the necessary action steps to increase what’s coming in and be conscious of what’s going out.

For many women, it can become all too easy to ignore our finances, or to go to the other extreme and be obsessive-compulsive about our numbers.

Action: Set a recurring appointment time on your calendar each day when you write down or use a spreadsheet to track everything that has come in that day and everything that has gone out. (I do my tracking everyday at 2:30pm.)

This time is also the perfect opportunity to express appreciation—another powerful daily practice—for the inflow and outflow of money, and the value and meaning that expression has for you!

Bonus Tip: Set a weekly money date for bill paying, and schedule it as a recurring appointment on your calendar. I have my weekly “money date” on Friday mornings.

2) Marketing: Spend a minimum of 30 minutes each and every day making outreach calls to potential clients.

This one simple action has made a HUGE difference in the growth of my business. Use this 30-minute block of time to make calls, send emails and follow up with former, current and prospective clients for setting appointments and booking NEW business, or taking steps toward your big dreams.

Bonus Tip: Use a timer or hourglass to keep you focused on the project at hand and minimize distractions that are rife for many entrepreneurs who work from home. Set a timer for 30 or 60 minutes when you’re doing some critical (yet easy-to-avoid) business-building activity such as outreach phone calls, updating your website or writing a blog post.

3) Mindset: Set aside time daily (30 minutes at minimum, 1 hour is best) for spiritual nourishment and renewal.

This is perhaps the most important action of them all, as it promotes a calm mind and a feeling of being centered and grounded throughout your day–something you definitely want to feel when you’re marketing your business or tracking your money!

This time can include a combination of personal introspection, quiet time, yoga, meditation, journaling, a contemplative walk in nature, gardening, mindful movement, reading or listening to inspirational material, or other activities that strengthen your inner wellbeing and help you feel peaceful.

I’m a morning person so I like to get up before my family does to have a dedicated hour-plus time for meditation, visioning, journaling and reading from a book that contributes to my spiritual and personal growth. I also read my 3-Year Life Vision Plan each morning while making coffee and doing standing stretches in the kitchen.

Bonus Tip: Choose the 1-3 nourishing activities that truly feed YOU (not the ones that others are doing or the ones you think you SHOULD do) and then stick with it. Again, the key is consistency. Put it in your calendar and just do it. No excuses. 🙂

Be patient with yourself as you’re installing these new healthy habits or samskaras into your life. Don’t give up—and, eventually, they will become part of your normal routine.

Plus, you’ll feel great knowing that you are not only doing something that takes care of yourself, but also benefits your family, your friends, your clients, your community, and your bank account!

Leave a comment below and let me know how these tips have helped you!