“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”
– Nelson Mandela
For many spiritual, heart-centered entrepreneurs—especially women—I’ve noticed a tendency to shy away from ambition.
There’s a very real fear we have seemed to inherit that stops many of us from standing fully in our power, speaking up and out, and claiming our right to abundance and wealth.
This fear stems from any number of factors: cultural conditioning; things we were told growing up such as “children should be seen and not heard;” modeling what our moms did or didn’t do; and/or perhaps even having a past life or an energetic/DNA imprint from a time in history when women were literally burned at the stake for speaking up.
The fear of ambition may show up for you when you say things like:
I want success, but I don’t want to have to work so hard or work a ton of hours to achieve it.
It’s not about the money for me; I just want to help as many people as I can.
I’m truly happy with my life the way it is… Even though I’m not making the money I want to be making, it’s decent enough.
First off, to truly embrace your ambition, you’ll want to define what ambition means to you.
Is it having a 6-figure business doing work you love in a way that supports your preferred lifestyle?
As an aside, I hear SO MANY women solopreneurs say this is what they want. Yet they don’t take the actions (such as investing in themselves) or use their mind in the most productive way to get this desired result. (I’m here to change that, but that’s for another article in the works for you!)
Remember, you get to define what ambition means for you, and it doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. And your definition will probably look much different now than when you were in your 20s.
Ready to embrace your ambition? Here are 5 habits to cultivate as an ambitious and driven heart-centered entrepreneur:
1) Stand out. Be willing to be fabulous and unique YOU.
There’s truly a unique part of you that many women business owners mistakenly believe they have to hold back.
You may be plagued by self-doubt or lack the confidence to really own your value, resulting in you significantly undervaluing what you do and charging far less than what you are worth.
The truth is… you have a gift, a unique viewpoint and a stand in the world to take.
AND it often stems from a childhood wound or something you’ve really struggled with in the past, have overcome, and now you want to be sure no one else has to struggle with it like you did. Be willing to come out with it and capitalize on that part of you!
One of my clients Miriam realized she had been holding back and undervaluing her talents and not appreciating her accomplishments as a designer and businesswoman. As her brand mentor and business coach, I helped Miriam to define her business’ brand essence, which included her owning her value and discovering the courage, clarity and conviction to confidently move forward with the launch of her women’s clothing line on her own terms.
2) Show up. Take daily consistent action to get the results you’re wanting—whether you feel like it or not.
Ambitious heart-centered entrepreneurs show up. Every frickin’ day whether they feel like it or not.
It’s not about working harder or working longer hours. But it is about being really clear on your goal, taking daily consistent action, staying laser-like focused and minimizing distractions.
The old saying “Little hinges swing big doors” could not be more true.
And when you learn to take daily consistent action—not just every so often or once a week, but DAILY—in your marketing outreach, money tracking and personal renewal time, you’ll actually increase your fun and profits!
3) Act as if. Make decisions from where you want to be not from where you are.
Here’s a quick exercise for you.
Step 1: Think of a decision you need to make in your business. It could be as simple as: do I order new business cards now or wait until the New Year?
Step 2: Next, write down the most amount of money you’ve ever made in a year.
Step 3: Now, add a zero to it.
Whoa! That’s a very different number, isn’t it?
Step 4: Now ask yourself: As someone who makes THIS amount of money, what decision would I make in this situation? As someone who makes this amount of money, what’s the next action step to take?
4) Know your edges.
The famous Kenny Rogers refrain from “The Gambler” comes to mind: You got to know when to hold ‘em. Know when to fold ‘em. Know when to walk away. And know when to run.
I’m not talking about cards or gambling in this case. I’m talking about knowing your edges and knowing when to hold ‘em, fold ‘em or walk the hell away.
In essence, it’s about you discerning what your edges are, your willingness to go to those edges. I’m not talking about jumping without a safety net. It’s also about knowing when to pause, stop and take a breath, or take a break. Or stop and rest.
Ask yourself honestly, am I going to the edge of the light I can see? Or am I holding back because it feels scary as heck and my insides are crazy?
5) Completely replace complaining, criticizing and comparing with…
Celebrating, Connecting and Collaborating.
Enough said! 😉
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